Maine & NH Wedding Photographer // This Is Not the Time – Let the Couple Enjoy Their Freakin' Day

Wanna know a universal truth?

The couple getting married does not need to hear your complaints on their wedding day. And understand when reading this, that I really care about my couples and the success of their wedding day and it hurts my soul when people try to get them flustered on their special, once in a lifetime day. So with that said, be nice and don’t complain.

Not about the food.

Not about the seating chart.

Not about how hot it is outside or that you parked too far away.

Zip it. Smile. Raise your glass. This is not the time.

They’re Not Event Staff, They’re the Freakin’ Main Characters

I cannot believe this has to be said, but here we are: Do not ask the couple to get you a drink, find your lost sunglasses, or track down your cousin who’s late. I literally have seen a groom’s mother yelling at the bride because the water wasn’t cold enough at the luncheon before the ceremony. Please don’t be that person.

They are not working the event. They’re not your personal assistant. They’re not there to serve you.

They are, in fact, busy… you know… getting married.

I Assure You…The Seating Chart Was Not Designed to Ruin Your Life

You’re not sitting next to your BFF? You’re at the “weird cousin table”? They put you next to their work friends instead of your ex from 2009?

You’ll survive.

The couple spent literal hours agonizing over that thing, trying to keep the peace and make everyone happy. There’s a 99.9% chance they’re already stressed about it. Don’t make it worse by rolling your eyes or whispering about it all through dinner.

Smile. Eat your chicken or vegan pasta. Toast to their happiness. It's one night. You can absolutely fake it for one night.

It’s a Celebration, Not a Customer Service Counter

Wedding days are organized chaos. The couple is juggling nerves, timelines, and emotions they didn’t even know existed. This is not the time to mention:

- That the music is too loud

- That the bar ran out of your favorite IPA

- That your chair has a wobble

- That you weren’t told it was an outdoor ceremony (yes, you were)

All of these things? Not the couple’s problem. Talk to a planner. Talk to a coordinator. Talk to literally anyone else.

Better yet—just let it go and enjoy the party.

Read the Room, Be Cool, and Let Love Be the Main Focus

Honestly, the best guests are the ones who are just happy to be there. The ones who dance, cheer, cry during the vows, and lift the energy up—not drag it down with complaints and requests.

Let the couple float through their day without drama. Let them bask in the love and adrenaline. Let them eat a warm meal and maybe even sneak a quiet moment together (gasp).

Just be cool. That’s all you gotta do. Be the guest they’re glad they invited—not the one they joke about later while unwrapping gifts and drinking leftover champagne.

So, if you’re ever at a wedding and tempted to complain or ask the couple to fix something for you, ask yourself this:

“Is this truly an emergency, or can I just chill and let them have their moment?”

(Hint: It’s probably the second one.)

Because when the couple’s happy, the party is better for everyone.